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The_Family_Scapegoat_Who_Was_Never_Allowed_to_Grow_Up
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The Family Scapegoat Who Was Never Allowed to Grow Up

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subconscious patterns that keep capable people stuck   

 

For survivors of family scapegoating trauma there’s a risk that you never psyc...

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You_re_Successful_-_so_why_can_t_you_feel_it
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You’re successful - so why can’t you feel it?

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When nothing fully lands, something deeper is going on. 

 

So it goes something like this - you receive praise for yet another incredible...

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Scapegoat Child Recovery
The ‘invisible ceiling’ high functioning No Contact scapegoat survivors encounter - that’s hurting their career
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The ‘invisible ceiling’ high functioning No Contact scapegoat survivors encounter - that’s hurting their career

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Survivors of family scapegoating abuse are highly competent, capable and resilient. 

A lot of them become entrepreneurs and build their own...

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Why_therapy_helped_but_didn_t_fully_resolve_it
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Why therapy helped but didn’t fully resolve it

 

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How your family of origin interacted with you is something that has been a cause of continuous pain your entire life.  You’ve lived throu...

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Growing up without permission to be yourself

 

Identity formation in Dysfunctional Families

When you grow up in a dysfunctional family you’re not given free rein to form your own identity.  Your identity is imposed. You’re told who you are.

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Why do I still attack myself if the abuse is over?

 

You were allocated the role of family scapegoat and experienced forced community exile. You’ve had to extract yourself from the toxic family system for your survival.  Even though you’re free from ...

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"Healing happens in Relationship" - I disagree

 

There’s a narrative circulating the healing space that says,

"If the trauma happened in relationship then the healing must happen in relationship.

This never sat well with me because I personall...

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Time's Up for Parents who Abuse

 

We’re living in an important time in terms of family scapegoating abuse - a real inflection point. 

 

The Age of Silence is fading - indeed the Silent Generation - those now age 80 - 97 are mostl...

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