Healing the Inner Bully: How to stop beating yourself up

A three-module course for No Contact survivors of family scapegoating abuse

 

Imagine a life free from the torment of the Inner Bully*

*The Inner bully is the inner voice that echoes your family’s contempt, keeps you doubting your worth, and punishes you for simply existing. 

How it Works

 

This self-led online course is structured into three clear modules that walk you step-by-step through the process of understanding, decoding, and dismantling your Inner Bully.

You’ll move through a blend of video teaching, written reflection, and guided integration practices designed to bring immediate insight and long-term transformation.  

It’s self-paced, giving you the flexibility to learn and integrate on your own schedule.

Healing Timeline 

 

While healing unfolds differently for everyone, many begin to feel the Inner Bully softening its grip after the first module, with a noticeable reduction in intensity over the following six weeks.

Your experience will depend on factors such as how much inner work you’ve already done, your current level of self-connection, and the time and consistency you bring to the process.

This course isn’t a quick fix, it’s a framework you can return to for life. Each module deepens your capacity to meet yourself with clarity, compassion, and self-leadership, even in the most triggering moments.

Course Bundle

$555* 

Three transformative modules that help you understand, decode, and rewire the Inner Bully once and for all.

By the end, you’ll experience more mental space, emotional freedom, and the calm confidence of self-leadership.

* All prices are in USD. 

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Prefer to start small?

Begin with Module 1: Understanding the Inner Bully.

Each module is sequential and designed to stand alone as a powerful stage of healing.

You can continue to Module 2 and beyond whenever you feel ready.

Module 1 - Understanding the Inner Bully 

$229

This module pulls back the curtain on the Inner Bully’s origin story. You’ll learn precisely how family conditioning hard-wired self-attack into your identity and why awareness alone hasn’t silenced it.

You’ll understand how shame sustains the Inner Bully and what must shift internally for true relief to begin.

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Module 2 - Decoding the Inner Bully

$229

You’ll uncover the emotional landscape that fuels your Inner Bully and learn how your mind has been working behind the scenes to keep old patterns alive.

Through this deeper understanding, you’ll gain fresh insight and practical tools that bring relief, space, and calm.

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Module 3 - Rewiring the Inner Bully

$229

This module shows you how to meet your Inner Bully from your grounded adult self without collapsing, reacting, or trying to fix it.

You’ll be guided through a five-phase rewiring process that softens old defences and teaches your system what safety feels like so patience and self leadership become your default.

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See What Awaits You in Each Module

 

Module 1 - Understanding the Inner Bully

  1. Section 1 - Orientation

    3 lessons
    1. Video 1: Your Roadmap to Understanding the Inner Bully
    2. The Inner Bully in Action
    3. What you'll learn from this course

  2. Section 2 - Understanding

    6 lessons
    1. Exercise: Setting the Stage for Change
    2. What is the Inner Bully?
    3. Video 2: How the Inner Bully was Formed: Essential Context
    4. How the Inner Bully Formed
    5. A Scapegoat is Chosen
    6. Why you Learned to Shame Yourself

  3. Section 3 - Integration

    4 lessons
    1. Video 3: Shame and the Inner Bully: My Personal Story
    2. Why the Inner Bully Persists
    3. Exercise: Awareness Practice: Meeting your Inner Bully in daily life
    4. Video 4: Where you go from here

  4. PDF for at home printing: Understanding the Inner Bully

    1 lesson
    1. Downloadable Course pdf. available here. (printer friendly). 

Module 2 - Decoding the Inner Bully

  1. Section 1 - Orientation

    3 lessons
    1. Video 1: Your Roadmap to Decoding the Inner Bully
    2. What you'll learn from this course
    3. Common Reactions to the Inner Bully

  2. Section 2 - Decoding

    2 lessons
    1. Video 2: Decoding the Inner Bully: Essential Context
    2. Exercise: Decoding the Inner Bully

  3. Section 3 - Integration

    3 lessons
    1. Video 3: Inner Turmoil: My Personal Story
    2. Key Takeaways
    3. Video 4: Where you go from here

  4. PDF for at home printing: Decoding the Inner Bully

    1 lesson
    1. Downloadable Course pdf. available here. (printer friendly). 

Module 3 - Rewiring the Inner Bully

  1. Section 1 - Orientation

    2 lessons
    1. Video 1: Your Roadmap to Rewiring the Inner Bully
    2. What you'll learn from this course

  2. Section 2 - Rewiring

    9 lessons
    1. Inside the Mind's Design
    2. Video 2: Rewiring the Inner Bully: Essential Context
    3. Exercise: How to Rewire the Inner Bully: Preparation Checklist
    4. Phase 1: The Empathic Reframe
    5. Phase 2: The Readiness Scan
    6. Phase 3: Extending Understanding
    7. Phase 4: Awakening Connection
    8. Phase 5: Restorative Dialogue
    9. Exercise Summary: What You’ve Practised

  3. Section 3 - Integration

    3 lessons
    1. Video 3: The Breakthrough: My Personal Story
    2. Key Takeaways
    3. Video 4: Where you go from here

  4. PDF for at home printing: Rewiring the Inner Bully

    1 lesson
    1. Downloadable Course pdf. available here. (printer friendly). 

Testimonials

Each of these clients took part in my Scapegoat Child Recovery membership or private coaching. 

Here's what they shared about our work together. 

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