No Contact from your abusive family promised a land of sunshine and flowers — but your reality is far more complex. You might find yourself navigating guilt, shame, loneliness, disenfranchised grief, and a fear of accessing your power.

You’ve extracted yourself from the family cult, but the wounds still live on.

Now, you're learning how to stop bracing and how to rehabilitate your nervous system from the long term effects of chaos and violence.  How to live, not just survive.  

This is phase two: Where the protective trauma responses are no longer needed but your inner child hasn't quite got the memo. 

The Transform Program is a deep, structured 1:1 container for this exact moment - designed to support you as you recalibrate and release what's still lingering so you can integrate the freedom you've worked so hard for and feel grounded, clear and fully at peace. 

What this program is

The Transform Program is a highly specialised 1:1 program for scapegoat survivors who are No Contact (or actively going No Contact) and ready to step into the next phase of healing:

 • Reclaiming identity

 • Restoring nervous system peace

 • Building an unshakeable relationship with the inner child

You may find yourself…

 • No longer in toxicity - but still unsure how to trust peace. 

 • Surrounded by people - yet profoundly alone with what you carry. 

 • Highly self aware - yet still haunted by the echo of your mother's voice in your mind. 

This is the residue of survival and it’s ready to be alchemised.

The Transform Program is a container for deep integration—

(not suitable for those currently navigating dangerous or high-risk situations).

You already know the story. You’ve done the therapy. You’ve read the books.

Now you’re ready to become the version of yourself no one ever mirrored—

but who’s been waiting within you all along.

Through the Transform Program we'll let your subconscious know: the war is over.  

About Mary Toolan

Mary Toolan is a specialist in post-No Contact recovery, inner child healing, and the reclamation of identity after family scapegoat trauma. Her work gently guides high-functioning survivors who’ve already left abusive family systems into a new era of self-leadership, emotional freedom, and nervous system peace.

With deep expertise in inner child and parts work, Mary brings a unique blend of psychological depth, spiritual attunement, and energetic clarity to her 1:1 work. Her clients arrive having completed years if not decades of therapy—but still find themselves carrying invisible grief, shame, and a fractured sense of self.

Mary’s approach is anchored in compassionate precision. She weaves together trauma-informed guidance, ancestral healing, and advanced emotional integration to help clients safely metabolise what remains. As the founder of Scapegoat Child Recovery Ltd., she has led thousands through her transformational frameworks, and is known for her clarity, integrity, and fierce devotion to her clients’ inner freedom.

Areas of Expertise

• Scapegoat Child Recovery & Complex Trauma:
  Specialising in recovery from complex childhood trauma, including scapegoating, emotional abuse, the abandonment wound and legacy family patterns.
  
  
• Inner Child & Parts Work:
  Deep expertise in inner child healing, inner critic integration, and IFS-inspired parts work.
  
  
• No Contact & Identity Integration:
  Supporting No Contact journeys, post-estrangement integration, and identity restoration.
  

• Grief, Shame & Emotional Healing:
  Expert in navigating disenfranchised grief, shame, anxiety, nightmares, and trauma-related panic especially tied to the mother wound and exile wound.
  
  
• Energetic & Ancestral Healing:
  Releasing trauma bonds, energetic contracts, and intergenerational patterns through ancestral and energetic healing.
  
  
• Empowerment & Individuation:
  Guiding clients through emotional maturation, sacred boundary setting, individuation, and neural pathway rewiring.