HEAL FROM SCAPEGOATING
We know first hand the taboo abuse, pain and trauma of family rejection
Is this you?
💔 Already No Contact with your family of origin (or mentally preparing for it)
💔 Navigating the emotional aftermath of estrangement, grief and complex loss
💔 Feeling alone, unseen, or unsupported in a journey most professionals don't understand
💔 Doing deep inner work - but still meeting the abandoned child who sabotages your peace
💔 Battling ancestral trauma - like a chokehold that shows up in your relationships, leadership or sense of safety
Mary Toolan
CEO at Scapegoat Child Recovery Ltd
A former family scapegoat, I now guide resourced survivors through the deeper layers of healing after going No Contact—unraveling trauma bonds, restoring nervous system sovereignty, and reclaiming the self beneath the distortion.
My work doesn’t stop at symptom relief.
It’s about helping you rebuild your inner world after a lifetime of control, blame, and shame.
Since 2020, my teachings have supported hundreds of clients worldwide and reached over 55,000 people online.
I’ve created a private membership, an immersive 1:1 container, and a living body of work that continues to evolve in depth, clarity, and reach.
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"Prior to my six month Scapegoat Child Recovery journey with Mary, I was terrified and alone in my no contact with my family of origin. I had terrible nightmares and severe anxiety.
Today I'm nightmare free. I don't tremble when the doorbell rings. I retired from being an overgiver. My hypervigilance has softened. Most importantly, I'm able to enjoy my life and give zero fucks about what anyone thinks of me. I'm so excited to wake up every day! It's a 360 transformation!
Melissa
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"Before I started the programme, I had been in talk therapy for 15 years and had left no stone unturned when it came to healing and personal development.
Mary’s course felt like the missing piece that helped me step fully into my power and take back my voice.
I wasn’t overwhelmed because the material is in bite size chunks and very practical - it could be fitted around my day to day life.
The community is safe, kind and supportive.
Lisa
